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What do you women think about foreign brides?

Do you think it is a slap in the face that a growing number of men would rather get married to a foreign woman instead of getting a feminized US woman? Why do you think this is a growing demand?

Public Comments

1. its up to you
2. I don't think it is. I think men obtain foreign brides who can't obtain brides another way.
3. I have no idea why its a growing trend, and are you sure it is? I would be wary of marrying a foreign woman ,if I was a man, it could be she just wants to live here, and thats the ticket in. I know of women marrying other men also from other countries. Good question, wish i had a better answer than that.
4. No- we American woman have gotten VERY liberated over the years, and some men just want the good old fashioned man running the relationship-if you harbor any bad feelings over the situation no worries--the women usually take their money and run anyway!
5. I think it says worse things about American men than it does women. The real question is, why are growing numbers of American men so terrible at socializing that they have to marry a stranger from halfway across the world?
6. I think most men cannot handle intelligent, power full, successful women!
7. I had no clue this was a trend, but it does not bother me at all. These brides will probably want their green cards and then after so many years take what they can out of the divorce. At least most American women can support themselves now. I guess with all this talk on immigration, maybe it is becoming a trend. Again, it is the problem of the man who takes the bride.
8. Fist of all, foreign brides are not necessarily home bodies. I'm English and I married an American, so I am a foreign bride. If my husband wanted a 'little woman', he was very disappointed. I am a very strong person, I run a computer consultancy. I am intelligent and successful.
9. while i wasn't aware that it was a trend, i am not really surprised that a lot of men are looking towards foreign girls to fill the traditional wife's role, as so many american women seem to think there is something wrong with taking that place. they have been raised to think that they don't need a man, and that they shouldn't allow anyone to hold a place higher than their own. while there may not necessarily be anything "wrong" with such thinking, it does sort of go against the natural way of things as far as families are concerned. the man is the head of the household, with the woman second in command. i'm sure all the feminists are gonna just love my comments here, but i don't care. traditional works for me and my family, and i think a lot of people could be a lot happier if they would try doing things in a bit more old-fashioned way.
10. Well, if it is a slap in the face, it is not my face they are slapping. Yes, I think it is possible that men who get discouraged with the man-haters ("feminism" is not really the word, you know; more like fem-Nazi, whether or not you like the guy who coined the term) are turning more to women from more traditional cultures. And if the relationship is sincere on both sides, I got no quarrel with them. I do think some girls marry Americans because they are Americans, and not because they are in love with them. Some of these confidently expect to learn to love their husbands, just as their mothers taught them is traditional. But some probably say to themselves, "Oh, well, we can always get divorced later if necessary." That cynicism should not be encouraged. Also, it is probably true that some men who marry these old-fashioned girls end up abusing them, figuring since she can't afford to go home to Mama when Mama is thousands of miles away means he has a free hand with her. But I also believe many sincere, loving marriages are contracted between people who started out in very different places.
11. What are the percentages of American men who marry foreign brides? The numbers aren't remotely close to frightening ANY woman. It just seems like a huge trend- but that is all it is: an impression. Otherwise, inter-racial or inter-cultural marriages are great!
12. 1) I don't know any of them. 2) Not at all... I say find love where ever you can and be happy. 3) From talking with my son about getting married. He will definitely look foreign due the the mouthy ones he has met around here and most were over weight & smoking. He has a right to his guidelines like everyone else.
13. I think it is a slap in the face that women in this country consider men expendable sex and money machines...I encourage all men to boycott these women...go asian, russian, whatever....you certainly can do no worse
14. I do not view it as a slap in the face to American women, I view it as a slap in the face to some of the foreign women who are being exploited by men who have no respect for women in general and just want an obedient slave. Alot of these marriages end in some sort of abuse.
15. my foreign wife, is a great companion, lover, and friend. we have never had an argument ever in 5 years. instead of bitching about equality. we both have equal footing in the relationship. instead of whining about sexuality, we have great sex.instead of getting fat we get beautiful. I had to convince her to come to america, she hates it here. and I don't blame her this country is full of hate. If my love dies tomorrow I will never date another American women as long as live! The battle of the sexes has destroyed this country. It has turned american women into self hating bigots
16. First off English women don't count because if you haven't notice America and the UK have been happily married for over 100 years now, they impact eachother. Any who. I'm not surprised because men obviously cannot handle the embittered independent women they have created. If more of you stayed around and did what you were supposed to do once the baby came then we wouldn't feel the need to be so self reliant. That is only for some cases though I will not broad stroke everyone. But that's hows I sees it.
17. I don't know if it is a 'growing' trend or not, but I would venture to say it takes a 'special' man to reach deep inside himself and brainwash himself into thinking that a woman born in another country would make a better wife. I believe this type of man probably thinks a more 'traditional' submissive woman has his best interests??
18. They are overrated.
19. No, it looks suspiciously like the men are very desperate for some reason. I think that they probably feel that they deserve to be waited on hand and foot in exchange for room and board - of course, they get sex too. It sounds like there's something so fundamentally wrong with them that no American woman would want to have them as a husband. It always looks to me like a financial/sex arrangement. That the woman gets out of a bad economic situation in return for sex and indentured servitude for the rest of her life. I guess the men also think that a foreign bride would be hard-pressed to divorce him too as she wouldn't understand the laws and/or would feel intimidated by the system. Any way you look at it, it looks sleazy, especially for the man. I'm not talking about countries similar to the US like Australia, Canada, England, etc.., but ones like Africa or Eastern Europe or especially the Asian countries.
20. Are you talking about mail-order brides? I personally know of two men who did this. One was Phillipino & one was eastern Eurpean. Both guys were happy for a year or so & then the women became Americanized & found out what their rights are in this country & eventually divorced them. The women made out great. The men, who paid a lot of money just to get them here, lost even more when they lost them.
21. A lot of people are generalizing here which is especially a waste of time when talking about things like love and marriage. I married a very independent woman from Eastern Europe who I met while living there (for over two years). She did not want to move and it took some convincing -- I do find it annoying if people assume that I married her because I couldn't stand American women or some nonsense like that. I just happened to meet the right person overseas. And sometimes foreigners can make better companions if you prefer to have life be a constant mix of adventure and discovery. If a "panic" of generalization happens because of this it's only a storm in a teacup. And I know plenty of women who marry foreign men.
22. One wonders why, if women are not threatened by foreign brides, they tried to have them outlawed with the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act added on to VAWA: http://www.imbra.org/ American men aren't marrying American women because of the high rate of divorce (like 50%), whereas with foreign women it is around 10%. Simple mathematics. More information on why men are not marrying American women can easily be found by perusing some of the main section posts at: http://dontgetmarried.proboards75.com/ For a start. The orginal dontmarry essay there should more or less explain the situation better than I can. I also think it is interesting that US women are NOT in any sort of demand overseas and there is no market catering to them.
23. I think the general impression overall (women AND men that I've talked to) is that men who go for "foreign brides" are pathetic losers who can't get a girl the "normal" way. The impression is that they possess very little "social collateral"--they are ugly, have chronic halitosis, very poor social skills, or all of the above. Some people think these girls are being taken advantage of, but it seems to me they are only in it for the green card. I mean, they maybe chat on line for a while, MIGHT get a picture, and suddenly they're in love and ready for marriage? PLEASE! Why would these girls put themselves up for display on these "matchmaking" websites for American men unless their motivation was a free ticket to America? Like the guys are so much better over here! And the general consensus over seas is that THAT is CERTAINLY not the case! No offense to guys who've found "love" this way, but it seems contrived and purely "convenient" for both parties, but more so for the women. Either way, I think women with plenty of "social collateral" of their own aren't that worried about it. These are the kind of guys that would have never gotten the "quality" girls, anyway. And "rmm"-what you are talking about is completely different. Certainly there is nothing wrong with anyone meeting and falling in love with someone from another country. I think the question was more specific to "mail order" or "matchmaking" brides, where, often, the two parties have never even met before the woman sets foot in America. These are basically arranged marriages...very little love involved.
24. What about all the foreign men that are snatching your women, does it make you jealous lol. But at the end of the day, if two people fall in love, why does it matter what nationality they are? If you are fealing threatened, then those are your own insecurities at work. HTH : )