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Do brides in planning honestly think that adults lose all brain function when they become guests?

For example, a bride panicking to the point of believing her wedding will be ruined because she doesn't believe that guests will be able to figure out on their own how her signature matte guestbook works unless she has a poem or other instructions to go with it. Or telling guests how to use bathroom baskets. Or any number of things. People are required to know much more complicated things that than in everyday life so why shouldn't they get more credit for their intelligence instead of treating them like special needs kids?

Public Comments

1. i have never heard of a bride being like this or imagine any would, if they do they are the ones who have mental issues not the guests!
2. Yeah !!! About time that was said. They don't know, either, that I put their favor in my bag for Charity, if I even bring it home. I have no idea what else to do with that stuff.
3. While I don't think adults lose all brain function, I have witnessed a number of instances where I've wondered how a wedding guest survived into adulthood. This is going to sound snobby, but if I'm spending nearly $20-grand of my hard earned money for 1 day in my life, I'm going to be a little anal-retentive about ensuring it goes off with as few flaws as possible. How to use bathroom baskets & signature mattes is a bit ridiculous, but I am asking my sisters BF to keep an eye on my wedding cake so none of the kids end up touching it or running into it. I am asking a good friend of mine to survey the reception room before guests get into it to make sure it looks good and is setup the way I want it.
4. I think brides have every right to be as picky about things as they want. Look at how much money, time, and effort goes into planning a wedding! I have spend countless hours worrying over things that might go wrong, but probably won't. I want to ensure that thing are going to go smoothly, so you better believe I am going to have designated people watching out for things that might happen. I refuse to have my wedding day ruined by the ignorance of others. P.S. For the record, I'm not as anal as the examples you gave. If there is a signature mat with a marker, I'm going to assume people know to write something to my groom and me. I'm not going to waste time to have instructions put up or to write a poem or whatever.
5. I just had to give ya a star just for asking this question...lol. Yeah, I've noticed a syndrome that seems to affect brides of this generation (not the brides of my generation so this syndrome must be new) and that is OVER THINKING THE WEDDING........ One of these days I expect to walk into the ladies room of a reception hall and see a cutesy poem over the toilet instructing me how to flush!.....lol. I swear we have kitchen appliances that take a degree in rocket science to operate (have YOU SEEN the new washer/dryers with steam options, automatic detergent dispensers that last for months, etc), fancy dancy t.v/dvd/ tivo yada yada yada but noooooo one can figure out how to put their hands together under a running facet and rub liquid soap into a lather...lol........ Just wait...one day there will be a cutesy poem above the toilet paper telling folks how to wipe....hahaha good luck.
6. Good question !
7. Brides can get very specific about their special day. Just humour them, they dont mean any harm, they are probably loving the planning of it and just wanting everything to be perfect. I was that bride. No reason to get offended, no one is trying to tell you you are a special needs child, leave the judgement behind.
8. Brides do get carried away with worry. Personally I think they should all do as my daughter did. She and the groom came over to my bridal shop and casually, in conversation, asked me what the minimum amount of time planning a wedding took. I said it could be done with several people helping in 30 days (Date Oct 2) her response "great then Nov 2 it is, and if you don't mind mom," I want it at All Saints in Atlanta, my bridesmaids in gold organza, the guys are wearing dress blues and can you hem J's in West Point hem? I also want a fountain in the cake with bridal party on stairs of the arch." Thanks mom, see y later, I have a class in 15 min. I saw her about 2 days later when she had time. I planned it and did the work, she just showed up. No Fuss no Muss. Wish her daughter would do it that way. It would save a lot of my breath and time, lol. Once I make a decision I don't change it as easily as she does. Her vacillation drives me nuts.
9. Brides spend an obscene amount of money and time planning and paying for a wedding that half of them can barely remember. The whole thing seems a bit silly. No matter how much they agonize over it, something, no matter how minute is going to go wrong- Murphy's Law. I couldn't sleep the entire week of my wedding, had to medicated just to sleep in addition to the anxiety. If I had it to do again, I would have headed to the JP and had a nice dinner afterward. I just wanted to be married, the ceremony was superfluous.
10. Hi. I totally agree. And may I also add about the "been living together for 10 years....don't need anything....so money would be appreciated" thing. Don't most of the guests ALREADY know that this couple has been living together for 10 years? OR...."how do I let the guests know where I am registered?" Ummmm.....easy....the guests use their own brain and go to the stores (or online) to see if a registry has been established in the bride's name. Easy! Geez....not complicated at all.
11. Yes, those immature and selfish ones really seem to. They seem to be the same ones with the 'all about me' syndrome. Kudos for bringing up this stomach-churning phenomenon. SirenSong, you are a star!
12. AMEN!