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Does the brides family still pay for the wedding ceremony and the grooms family pay for the reception?

I need to know who pays what? Does the bride and groom pay for everything or is it still the brides mother and father pay for the ceremony and the grooms parents pay for the reception? Im getting married May 2007 and Im only going to have about 15 of my friends and family there. The other 100 guest will be his friends and family so I think his parents should pay for the reception to feed all those folks, its their family.

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1. not in louisiana, you are on your own. parents don't pay for crap down here.
2. Check theknot.com for a "traditional" list of who pays for what..... What you need to do is get the your fiance, your parents, and his parents together and have a meeting and discuss budgeting, and who wants to/will pay for what. You can't expect his family to pay for "their" guests. If you don't want to end up paying for a hundred or so people you need to tell them that they can only invite so many people, afterwhich they would have to foot the bill.
3. Depends on how traditional your family is. In my case, I'm doing better than my parents (at age 24) and my now husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves. $20k. It actually made me appreciate the event even more and I had all say in what was chosen. I didn't have to ask my parents if they liked it and had not guilt that I was spending to much.
4. it is typical for the brides family to pay for the wedding and reception, and the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon! It depends on if the parents are willing to do that though!
5. I think it depends on who can afford it. My fiances family is only giving her $500 of the whole wedding, even though they have plenty of money, so since my family is poor I am going to have to use credit cards for it. That is a great wedding gift $4,000 in debt.
6. traditionally the brides mum and dad pay for everything, BUT times have changed Hun, I think the best way to do it these days is to all sit down together and work out who can pay what and who can afford what between all of you. this is the fairest way in my opinion
7. My mom used my inheritance to pay for my wedding and I didn't know until after the wedding. It was $500 and I never saw a penny of my inheritance. The inheritance was from the house she decided to sell. It was a small casual wedding and it barely cost anything. But I was very upset. It's not the money piece that bothers me, it's the principle of the fact that she decided how I was going to spend my inheritance and gave my 3 siblings their inheritance and told them to spend it any way they want. I'm still trying to get over it, it's been a little over a year.
8. usually they share
9. if you are thinking about money read carefully DON'T DO IT
10. brides parents pay for the wedding that i know as far as the reception is concerned ur wud be husband and his family shud pay.u shud talk to him about this.
11. you can make whatever arrangements you want. traditionally....here you go. http://www.weddingarden.com/whopaysforwhat.php
12. Traditionally the grooms family does NOT pay for the reception. Of course, people can do whatever they want. Now many couples pay for their own weddings. It can really be done however you want. If your parents want to pay for the wedding, then they set the rules. They can limit each side to 20 guests. You and your fiance or your parents do not have to pay for his parents to invite numerous family friends and relatives. I really cannot believe anyone has 100 close friends and relatives. If you want a small intimate wedding, then say so and stick to it. Good luck on your upcoming wedding, don't let these little details ruin your big day.
13. I definately believe that if your future in-laws are causing excess espenses that they should pay for them. My husband and I made our guest list ourselves, then ran it by our parents to see if there was anyone very important that we forgot (grandma?). Anyway, what happened was that we split the wedding costs into thirds, which was representative of our list, 1/3 for our friends, 1/3 my family and 1/3 his family. However, I also think that you need to have a budget and stick to it so that everyone responsible for paying a portion of the wedding knows what that portion will be far enough in advance so that they can save for it. Best wishes!
14. Traditionally, although who really follows it anymore, the Bride's family takes care of the whole check. However, you have a good point. 100 out of 115 guests are his side. So either he can reduce his list to 15 as well, or your parents can pay for your 15 and he can handle the outrageous bill. Many times nowadays, the couple pays for their own wedding; I'd just talk to your fiance and his parents, tell them what you think.
15. traditionally speaking, the bride's parents pay for everything but the reception and the honeymoon. However, most things aren't traditional anymore, so I would expect to pay for everything yourself, unless the parental units have indicated otherwise.
16. No days it's just who ever can afford to pay in my family the people that are getting married pay for it and both parents just pitch in what they can afford and we pay the rest.
17. DO YOU HAVE TRADITONAL PARENTS? DOES HE? HAVE YOU TALKED TO THEM? YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN BOTH SET OF PARNETS AND ASK THEM IF THEY ARE HELPING PAY FOR YOUR BIG DAY. AT THIS POINT DONT SEPERATE FAMILIES YOU ARE ONLY GONNA MAKE IT WORSE
18. It just depends on what each family wants to pay for. They don't have to pay for anything.
19. No, all that has gone out the window (and your examples are wrong, anyways). Since most women and men are out on their own and working, they are paying for their own weddings. Work it out between you and your man who is covering what, and if either or both of your families want to kick something in, consider that a bonus. About the guest list, when both of your families met, you should have ensured that everything was more equal!
20. LOL- not in this life time. Both the bride and groom pay for thier own wedding.... I would talk to your husband to be about it..... But either way your family should not be paying for it.
21. it's all good when everyone pitches in
22. With couples getting married later in life, often now it is becoming more common for them to pay for it themselves, and you are to be pleasantly surprised if mom and dad make an offering. Best of Luck
23. Have you guys talked about how you were paying for the wedding? Did your parents say they were paying for it, are they really that traditional? Those are the things to definitely find out if you don't know. My husband and I were both from single parent homes so asking parents to pay for anything was out of the question. If you two decide to pay for it yourselves there are ways to have a big extravegant wedding without going into debt. We had over 200 guest and spent less than 10k for the ceremony and the reception---- and we had it all fountains, dj, decorations, beautiful cake. Don't let anyone tell you to spend 20k and up thats ridiculous. That also included our honeymoon in Cancun all inclusive 7days! And another bit of advise from one bride to another, I thought I was always going to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding dress, after that big day ended I'm so glad that I didn't. I actually spent less than $200 getting it from the ebridal store on ebay Everyone thought my dress was much much more than that. But they custom make it for you and they do a great job. I hope that prepares you more for your big day! Good luck and Congrats!
24. No. The bride's family pays for the ceremony AND reception. The groom's family pays only for the rehearsal dinner (night before wedding). Unless the groom's family offers to pay more.
25. Depending on financial situations the following is customary. The bride's family pays for the wedding and reception The groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner the bride's bouquet. Now no one can be forced to pay for anything, so nicely discuss this. You cannot demand his family pay because they will attend. That is entirely the wrong attitued to have.
26. Rarely do parents pay for weddings these days. I paid for every bit of mine. My now husband paid for the rings, tuxes and honeymoon. I paid for everything else. It was small and intimate but beautiful. I wouldn't count on your fiancees family to pay for the reception.