500 Wedding Ideas - Should the Father of the brides fiance attend the rehearsal dinner tho she is not part of the wedding party?

Should the Father of the brides fiance attend the rehearsal dinner tho she is not part of the wedding party?

trying to establish protocol in an uncomfortable situation as not to offend me, the bride or the bride's father. We intend to ask the bride as it has not been mentioned but we would like to establish what is considered the "norm" first.

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Yes, she should be invited because she is his fiance and should be treated just like family.
The father of the bride's fiance should be invited! It would be very rude and unacceptable for her not to be. The woman he is about to marry is more important than some girlfriend of a groomsmen who will most likely be there.
I would say so, she is his date and soon to be wife. But if she does not get along with the bride, I don't think she should be there.
yes definately. anyone involved in the wedding (especially the father of the bride) is allowed to bring a date. You are his fiance, you should not feel out of place. Although you are not her mother you are still a very important person, you are the woman MARRYING the father of the bride. Dont worry, you will have a nice time as his date. You can go anywhere he can go! good luck
YES, the fiance of ANY member of the wedding party, which includes the father of the bride, is TO BE included in the rehearsal dinner.
If the fiance of the father will be at the wedding then to be nice and not cause an extra rift, I would invite her and ask all others to at least be cordial/nice to her. At a time like this the bride doesn't need extra stress and neither does the father.
It depends. Have you been invited? I really think this depends on each individual situation. I suggest this decision had best be left to bride and groom. If there is discomfort involved, it may be best if FOB's fiance does not attend. If FOB's fiance is invited, then she should attend. She should be gracious, remain in the background, and allow the bride and the bride's mother to shine. I worry here because (in both this question and your other question) you seem to be taking such a forceful stance on your place in this family. I suggest you relax and take a less obtrusive stance. Be gracious and go with the flow. Let bride and groom make the decisions on how you are to be included. I think if you back off a bit, you may find bride, groom, and family may be happier to welcome you. You don't need to establish the "norm" or the "protocol." Allow the bride and groom to make these decisions, without interference. Your fiance loves you, intends to marry you, and that is all that is really important, right? Give everyone else time to accept you, and quit pushing.
If she's engaged to the father of the bride then absolutely! Why would you not include her? It would be rude not to include her.
She will be family sooner or later. Show that she is being accepted into the family by extending and invitation to her. The day is special for the Mother of the Bride and the Father of the Bride so she should not expect to be recongnized with a corsage and should not expect to be seated in the processional (unless the Bride requests). Her presence may be requested in a family photo but that is up to the Bride.
Why create hard feelings with your son's father in law? Just invite both and let them be civil to each other. DON'T play Solomon.
everyone in the wedding should be allowed to bring a date especially if they are engaged ot married to the other person!
I've seen your other question on this. You are just determined to get "your place" in this wedding, aren't you? Get over it. She doesn't want you there, or you'd be invited. This is NOT ABOUT YOU. It's someone else's wedding and she doesn't want you there! Stay home and watch TV!
Yes. Spouses or fiances of family or those in the wedding party are included.
I would invite her. She is engaged to the Father of the Bride.
Both sets of parents (and possible step-parents) need to be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Everyone needs to act like adults and realize that it is you and your bride's big day - they should be able to contain themselves this one time. It seems like there is another underlying issue. Do you think you can give more information??