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What would you think about a virgin wearing black on their wedding day? Weddings are an expression of the soul

I recently finished a fashion project on weddings. I think weddings are similar to other things that are more a matter of the sould such as yoga meditation and prayer. I am a young adult female who is a virgin, but I have always considered wearing black as a color on my wedding day. Black works for everything, and I am a bit of a goth, and typically depressed. I think this would be a good way to express myself, and I am curious to hear other peoples thoughts.

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  1. Black would be such a strikingly beautiful color! It is very elegant and appropriate for all state and religious functions.
  2. because something has to be buried on their honeymoon that's why they wear black... lol
  3. It's your wedding you do what you wish. My cousin's wedding dress when she gets married is gonna be black and purple...those are the colors for the "theme" of her wedding.
  4. I think the bride should wear whatever makes her feel special. It is her day, after all.
  5. Its up to the bride, not anyone else, and it does not represent the soul....
  6. are you asking or just giving your opinion?
  7. If that makes you happy sweetie go right ahead :) peace.
  8. it's your wedding do it how you want but please get help with your depression it is not healthy for you or the new marriage
  9. if you like it, wear it. i don't know about the whole veil thing though, that might look a little widow ish...
  10. Your wedding, your choice, though I don't agree that a wedding is an expression of the soul. It's a festive day, however, so do whatever makes you comfortable and allows you and your guests to celebrate the occasion comfortably.
  11. Wearing black in your wedding day wouldn't be the best thing to do. Black means Death, sadness, fear, anger, evil. Want to ruin your wedding and people's happiness while they look at you and think that you are sad and not really happy with the person you want to marry.
  12. its your wedding, you should do whatever you want...just remember to ask yourself, how will you feel about it in 20 years? I'm not a virgin, and i'll be wearing ivory. (i think pure white is icky)...but i've seen a bride wear black, and because she was gorgeous and had amazing taste she totally pulled it off. A lot of new wedding dresses are incorporating colors into the traditional dresses. Always follow your heart!!!
  13. Meh. You'd have a hard time explaining your pictures to your kids later. Any color other than black would work, I think. Otherwise, you'd kind of look like you were at the prom. I recently saw a beautiful red wedding dress used in an "offbeat wedding". I'm going to attach the link as a source so you can look at some photos of non-traditional yet gorgeous wedding attire.
  14. It is your wedding so there's that. How does your partner feel? Always worth asking in case it's a big deal. In my opinion though, black is so connected to funerals it might be tough on the families. As an altrenete: maybe a dark red or Burgandy? Still nice and dark, works with the goth feel but avoids the funeral stuff.
  15. Is she wearing black as a symbol of mourning for losing her virginity? Your question is vague. However, I could care less if my wife to be wore purple socks, green pants and a black metallica shirt, I mean, I love her for who she is, not what she wears, wedding or not. Symbols are only symbols, and I am for the non-traditional weddings any day.
  16. Your virginity is really none of anyone's business but you and your future husband's. People will make assumptions either way. There's nothing wrong with having a unique dress. Everyone wears white and I think it's boring and rather unflattering on most people (Ok, on most white people). In other countries they wear red and probably other colors too. A lot of people do themed weddings too with different types of outfits. I say go for it. Be yourself.
  17. well. black is a very sad color and weddings are supposed to be a happy memory, u can give a wrong idea by wearing black , like u r regreting something, i hate black color , and i really think that white color means a pure , kind soul, and a wishies for a pure happy marraige
  18. I think it depends on your height, the colour of your skin, your feeling and some other things. If you are tall, slender, white, Ok, black is really good for you.
  19. It would be your wedding and your allowed to do what you want. Your sexual status is nobody's business but yours and your future husbands. So the fact that your a virgin means nothing. If you want to wear black...wear black. If you want to wear white...wear white. If you want to wear florescent orange with purple polka dots...wear that.
  20. Nothing wrong with black. Have you checked out http://www.offbeatbride.com or http://community.livejournal.com/gothweddings/ for ideas? Wear whatever looks great on you and that makes you happy and don't settle for what other people tell you that you must do because it's traditional. What I don't get is the double standard that guests and bridesmaids are allowed to wear black to a wedding, even the men are allowed to wear it since that is a standard color for them, and black is even considered festive for any formal occasion and a must have color for every woman's wardrobe, but yet that same "festive" color is the ultimate taboo for a bride. That logic makes no sense whatsoever. White dresses for a bride (virgin or not) are fairly recent in the grand scheme of history. No one wore white to get married in before Queen Victoria introduced the color in the 1800s, and even then it was a symbol of wealth and had nothing whatsoever to do with virginity or purity.
  21. My daughter did. It wasnt my choice but her man wasnt either. He turned out to be a loser & stayed out all night. She was really down worse then. But ,it's your day. Wear red!& red heels!
  22. I imagine it is intended to be a civil ceremony - most vicars are going to be a bit uncomfortable about a ceremony featuring the Bride of Dracula. If you know anything about fashion, then you know about colour coding, and how relatively strong some sartorial conventions are. Black may be considered a slimming colour, and Goths like it, but it is very strongly associated with mourning and funerals. Virgin weddings are themed White. You are sending the sartorial message that you are in mourning. As you will doubtless be aware, Gothic isn't about dressing in black, it's an affectation towards the style of the 1890s. Have you considered a very very old fashioned consciously archaic, flouncy, over the top wedding dress with bustle, lace, train, etc? Maybe white, but accessorising in black or dark purple? That could be quite eye catching, especially if the gentlemen all dress in frock coats and cravats. Black dyed hair, white face makeup, a black veil, nail polish, lipstick, bouquet, Paratrooper boots, stockings might do it for the groom (or other bride - I don't wish to presume). There is a suggestion that the wedding day is for the bride's mother, and the ceremony is/could be your one nodding acknowledgement towards convention before painting the town red at the reception. You can only get married for the first time as a virgin once (people have a hardtime believing it a second time), and you will have the photos forever. Explaining to the Grandchildren that grandma was a Goth, which was a fashion around the 2000s may be something you regret or find hard to explain. This is your day to be elated, not depressed.
  23. It's your wedding. Wear what you want and know you will be happy with it. Congratulations and Good Luck!
  24. The white dress actually started in the victorian era simply to show off one's wealth when getting married by buying a horribly impractical (white because it stained easily) dress which would be worn only once. Before this became the fashion it was traditional that brides simply wore their finest clothes and jewelry. Oriental cultures wear red for good luck. Honestly I think black is a fine color (since I also tend to go to the goth side). Black, in pagan religions, tends to mean protection or you could think of it as the never ending possibilities of space. There's nothing wrong with black as a wedding dress at all.
  25. White wedding gowns actually do not symbolize virginity, contrary to popular belief. That is myth. You can search the web for more info on this if you wish. White is supposed to symbolize wealth and joy. In Asian cultures, brides wear RED (and I bet more Asians are virgins at marriage than Westerners). You can wear whatever color you want. Prior to the white wedding gown trend, brides wore their best dress, of any color. My dress was light pink (with white lace). I was also a virgin when I married. My bridesmaid's wore black...I think it's a classic color and looks great in photos. Black used to be shunned at weddings because in Western cultures it is typically associated with funerals. However, I have seen black bridal gowns and they can look stunning. You should do whatever you want, but make sure that a black bridal gown is really what you want. Once your wedding is over it's too late. Remember that you will not be a depressed 22 year old goth in 20 years...will you still want that black dress in your wedding photos? If you still feel like this is the way you want it, by all means do it! If a black dress is who you are, don't let anyone else stop you.
  26. Firstly I do not think it is any of the guests business as to whether the bride and groom are virgins, that's a private matter and something to be kept between the couple, I certainly do not think the guests have any right to speculate on that based on the colour of the bridal gown. White has never, ever represented virginity, it's only the churches and religion that would have you believe that, but in fact blue is the colour for purity, so if you want to display your "pureness" for all to see then white is not the colour to go for. I really honestly believe that a bride should wear what she wants to wear on her wedding day, whether that be black, white, green, purple, orange or whatever she wants, and I think the guests should realise that times have changed and we are no longer bound by stuffy old traditions.
  27. WEAR WHAT EVRE YOU LIKE soorry caps lock was on, im not going to redo it becasue its appropriate. its your wedding do what you like
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