500 Wedding Ideas - Should we have both a grooms cake and a brides cake?

Should we have both a grooms cake and a brides cake?

I have been to wedding that do have both and i have been to wedding that only have a brides cake. what should we do?

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What you can afford. Or if your groom really cares and a cake of his own will make him happy do it. If he doesn't really care, then don't.
If the groom doesn't want one he doesn't have to have one.Plain and simple.
well I mean the wedding cake isn't just a bride's cake, that's the WEDDING cake. why the groom gets his own cake is beyond me but I've only been to 1 wedding that had a grooms cake. and I've been to like 25 weddings. no one eats the cake anyway, wedding cake is like the worst cake on earth. I went to a wedding last winter that was very posh and must have cost $50K and STILL the cake was awful.
In the south a lot of people do the grooms cake. I personally don't understand it. Because you have the wedding cake and some random cake that shows the grooms hobby. I don't see the point but if you like the idea then go for it. If not then scrap it.
I'm so tremendously old school, I remember when it was called the Wedding Cake, and it worked for both. :) I agree- if money's an issue and he doesn't care, just go with one.
No you don't have to have both, but in my greedy cake eyes...you can never have too much cake.
It's YOUR wedding, do what feels right to you. But the more cake the better, I say ; )
traditionally, the groom's cake is a dark cake, usually chocolate or red velvet, and is meant to show a bit of his personality. also, single guests used to take a small piece of the grooms cake home in a little white box, then sleep with it under their pillow, then supposedly dream of who they would marry that night. having a groom's cake has benefits - it offers more options in cake choices for the guests, adds a visual aspect to the set-up, and can really give the groom a chance to shine on a day when it's mostly all about the bride. the groom's cake is also usually smaller, and thus, less expensive. talk it over with your fiance. if you both like the idea, go for it. if it's not important to him, don't bother with it. most people don't these days where i'm from. i think it can be a fun way to add something special, but it really should be up to you as a couple - after all, it's your wedding. good luck! EDIT: since when do all wedding cakes taste nasty? i do wedding cakes, and mine have all been devoured down to the last crumb! y'all need to shop around and get samples before buying a cake that you don't want to eat.
I know it's a tradition down in the south but in my opinion it's unneeded. First of all that big cake that you cut the first piece of and all your guests eat? that's not a 'brides cake' it's a WEDDING cake for BOTH the bride and groom. It's not just her day it's his too, it's every much his wedding cake as it is hers. Other than to 'do it because other people have done it' I don't see the need for a grooms cake unless you want variety in which case you can make the layers on your wedding cake different or have some sort of dessert bar or something like that.
♥ Usually there is only a "brides" cake, but either option is perfectly acceptable. I have a friend getting married next August, they are having a "brides" cake as well as a grooms icecream cake since he doesn't like regular cake. Go with what you can afford!
I think weddings that have grooms cakes are generally more upscale, fancy weddings. That's not to say that you can't have one though! You could get a smaller tiered wedding cake and then supplement with the grooms cake. I think it's a nice idea too, because most girls want the beautiful flowery cake and most guys want something totally different! I say go for it, if funds allow.